BEST HUSBANDOS DON’T EVEN TRY TO CHANGE MY MIND
lmao this is pretty much one of my weird headcanons of these two.
Anders picked up knitting after that banter in DA:A, just picture him knitting Ser Pounce a pair of booties. He drops it after going to Kirkwall, but once he and Hawke hooks up, he decides to knit him a sweater for some special occasion. Of course it turns out to be the most hideous thing Hawke’s ever seen, but he wears it anyway for Anders’ sake, which of course leads to Anderes knitting Hawke a matching mile long scarf.
CONFESSION:I find Anders’ little ponytail exceedingly adorable and amusing. I question its purpose when it holds up so little hair but I love it anyways.
I am still fully convinced that the reason as to why the enemies just appear in hordes(falling from the roofs pfft) in DA2 has to do with Varric changing how many enemies they were to Cassandra.
"They were 10, no 25, no wait 500 thugs all attacking us at once"
Your “Maker” is a story you humans use to explain the world. We have our own stories. I don’t need to borrow yours.
And on that subject we should probably talk about how Anders is essentially a one-man Planned Parenthood providing healthcare for poor women. For free.
I mean, he provides medicine for everyone for free but the game does go out of its way to mention that he
1) Clearly has helped deliver babies safely for refugee mothers.
2) Probably provided medicine and a safety net for pregnant, virtually homeless mothers.
3) Apparently can cure STDs and does so. Again for free.
So based on this I’m headcanoning now:
4) I’m willing to bet he knows something about contraceptives (I imagine mages would have some sort of magic or enchanted item that does the trick)
5) There’s no evidence of this but sure let’s double down and say he’d help with abortions for poor women, young women, and abused women no questions asked. Yeah, I’d headcanon that maybe a lot of poor Kirkwall women know to go to him for help in that regard and they know he won’t question their decisions, won’t charge them, and won’t tell anyone.
I just feel it’s worth talking about. The fact that when Hawke is asking questions about how to find him that the Ferelden refugees were basically like “if you fuck with him you fuck with all of us” was a great introduction to just who we were about to deal with.
That’s who Anders really is. He’s a doctor first and foremost and he very much carries that mentality with him through the game. And it doesn’t contradict his revolutionary nature and his cause. In fact I’d argue it’s integral to his radical views. He wants to fix a “sick” system, heal the damage that’s been done to his people. But sometimes cures take time. Sometimes cures can ravage a body before they heal. It doesn’t mean the medicine isn’t working and it doesn’t mean it’s not good for the body overall.
Brian Bloom as Varric Tethras [x]
All That Remains + things that cannot be unsaid
This is exactly how I see Leandra too. There’s an element in there, of course she doesn’t HATE her children, but there’s such an incredible amount of resentment between her and her eldest child that to write it off as simply grieving is a misnomer, I think.
I think it’s fairly clear that she resents Hawke for a number of reasons: knowing Malcolm better than she does (implied at the end of Legacy), failing to save him/acting as the head of the family despite the fact that she’s clearly not stepping into the role or even trying, the dead twin, etc. Moreover, I think it’s fairly obvious that Leandra and Malcolm were very much what would have happened if Romeo and Juliet hadn’t had a typically tragic ending: they were young, impulsive, and in “love,” but once you’ve given up everything, what does that really leave you with? A partner you barely know, who you’ve put all your trust into despite that, and despite however much Leandra says she puts love above all-else, we see even in her conversations with Gamlen that this very much isn’t necessarily the case, and she carries a lot of her bitterness with her. She wasn’t ready for what running away really meant, she was young enough to have very likely acted impulsively on a romantic ideal that didn’t pan out in any way she’d actually hoped.
It’s a really dysfunctional, bittersweet relationship, and I can’t at all blame Hawke for thinking this. Hawke’s already got a guilt complex a mile wide, no matter how you really play it; there’s a reason they take on all this responsibility that isn’t even necessarily theirs. With Malcolm, it’s all responsibility, and honor, and doing the right thing no matter how hard it is, and with Leandra, it’s all guilt, residual affects of growing jaded with where unchecked romance really leads.
She can be a caring figure, certainly, when she feels like it, but finding her to be a truly supportive one it a little harder for me, when she relies on her eldest child the way her younger children do. There’s such a lack of responsibility on Leandra’s part: something must always be someone’s fault, because surely SURELY there must still be some good left to come out of a foolish decision she made as a teenager. Their status in Kirkwall is Gamlen’s fault (which is true enough, but he DOES have a point in that she’s been away from home for 25 years; anything he does to drag the “family name” into poverty and squalor is his own doing, and while it’s hard to support his methods, he’s at least grown up enough to recognize the reality of his situation. Is Leandra’s anger at her brother entirely unjustified? No, but at the same time, she continually fails to recognize that she gave up her status, her family name, and her inheritances, and this attitude doesn’t come out of nowhere, suddenly rekindled after two decades of “hiatus.” It’s a failure to take responsibility.
TL;DR, I seriously appreciate just how incredibly fucked up and dysfunctional Hawke family dynamics really are. It’s a family full of love that Hawke would and continually does put their life on the line for, but it’s not a healthy one. It’s not a supportive one. And I find it really telling that despite Malcolm’s questionable allegiances as an apostate, it’s THIS name that Hawke chooses to symbolize and hang onto, despite the fact that Leandra is clearly very ready to step back into the role of a noble that she’d “left behind.” Is it any surprise that Hawke seems so used to the responsibility, so easily stepping into the role as head of household when their parents are so embittered, disillusioned, and in Malcolm’s case, paranoid and uncommunicative?
Hawke’s so used to being the parent, being the one to take up responsibility that of course it’s going to kill them when they fail; they’ve been conditioned to impossible responsibility and the constant looming threat of guilt.
This depth makes my heart hurt.
Wow, this is such an excellent take. This is not how I’ve usually seen or headcanoned Leandra, but all this insight is really making me want to take a long second look at their relationship.
I love this. Because it’s not that Leandra doesn’t love her children — of course she does, she adores them — it’s that she’s not a perfect woman: She makes mistakes, jumps to hurtful assumptions, and thrusts too much responsibility on her children, particularly her eldest. Not to mention that she’s still struggling with profound grief, not just over losing her child and her home, but the life she sacrificed everything for.
She’s not a bad mother (just look at how her children turned out) nor is she a bad person. She’s just a complicated human being, with warts and flaws. Sometimes it’s hard to see them because we self-insert as her child, and it’s always tough to see your parents as people, not ideas, even when said parents are digital. But I think a read on her character that acknowledges said faults and mistakes is far more illuminating than the alternative.
Personally, I think you can see a lot of Leandra in Carver and vice versa; certainly they manifest their grief in similar (hurtful) ways. I’ve always headcanoned that the two of them were particularly close (and I think there’s some good evidence in-game to support the theory).
I read this article the other day, and… you should probably read it before reading my stuff, but that’s the point of the game, isn’t it? Hawke isn’t a hero, Hawke is us, a person that benefits off the oppression of others whether we like it or not—and in many ways we can’t stop, even if we try. Dragon Age 2 is a mirror of our world, and it’s the reason it’s such a powerful game because it doesn’t try to hide how ugly it is.
Heroes are extraordinary and will always do what’s right, but there’s a reason they’re rare, and not everyone can be one. Their willingness to do the right thing usually comes with a lot of self-sacrifice, and that’s a lot to ask a person to do on their own. There’s a reason heroes ascend to Heaven, and the rest of us don’t—and it’s the same reason their stories end then and there, after they achieve godhood. There’s a reason Hawke is only a hero in Varric’s stories—hell, there’s a reason heroes are only ever stories in DA 2.
But the important thing about Hawke, for all of his/her faults, is that they’re willing to do the right thing when it most counts, and if that isn’t a truly human story, I don’t know what is.