Unconsciously, I had these feelings even before I came
here. Once when I was spending the night at Jacque's, I could
no longer restrain my curiosity about her body, which she'd
always hidden from me and which I'd never seen. I asked her
whether, as proof of our friendiship, we could touch each
other's breasts. Jacque refused.
I also had a terrible desire to kiss her, which I did.
Every time I see a female nude, such as the Venus in my art
history book, I go into ecstasy. Sometimes I find them so
exquisite I have to struggle to hold back my tears. If only I
had a girlfriend!"
This is an opinion, of course, but it goes against what Anders himself believes about love. Anders is pansexual, and a Hawke of any gender, class, personality or belief system is the love of his life. It’s Hawke that Anders wants, not a body or a voice or a set of abilities. Hawke.
*applause for Surely*
Yup, this is everything I have to say on this subject as well. I ship Anders with Hawke. The end.
I…sometimes get sad when I see people who want to headcanon that Anders is really straight or gay, because there seems to be an unspoken implication that there’s something wrong with him being bisexual or pansexual. Otherwise why bother to change it in your headcanon?
I am bisexual (though my definition of this matches the definition of pansexual, I just prefer the term bisexual for myself) and it took me a very long time to come out of the closet, because of the RL prejudice I kept encountering from both the LGBT community as well as the straight community. And sometimes, seeing stuff like that directed at Anders just reminds me of it, and makes me sad.
I’m not saying that’s what this particular confession is supposed to mean, but it’s something that’s been on my mind for a while now, so I guess this kind of gives me an excuse to put it out there. I guess I wonder if anyone else feels this way?
Yes, I agree with everything you said signcherie. I identify as pan as well (albeit of the asexual variety). It made so happy that Anders is portrayed in this way, caring little for the body, making the mind what is important to him.
He has canonically been with both men and women. Fact. I just think it takes something away from his character to deny that. To say, ‘well I find x type of relationship squicky so I’m going to make this character gay/straight.’ To be honest, it smacks a bit of erasure, and that is something I’m not comfortable with at all.
By all means, make your Hawke exclusively gay or straight, but please don’t take away something so wonderful from Anders’ character.
Another pansexual here, agreeing with all of the above. Anders’s “I’ve always believed people fall in love with a person, not a body. Why would you shy away from loving someone just because they’re like you?” made me fall in love with him, and the writers. <3
Have I told you people how much I love you? Surely and Frankie and Anna (and cherie - but I don’t know you but love you still).
All the above is why I love Anders more than any videogame character ever before or since.
Okay, so I’ve noticed a lot of people referring to pansexuality as a glorified or hipster way of saying one is bisexual. Aaaaaand that is incorrect. This is where understanding language comes in handy, guys.
The prefix “bi” means “two”.
The prefix “pan” (or “omni”, for those who prefer the term omnisexual) means “all”.
That prefix change is incredibly important, even if doesn’t seem that way at first.
Bisexuality perpetuates the flawed idea that there are only two sexes/genders. This is false. Biologically, there is not just male and female. There are many cases of intersexed children being born; I think the most popular statistic cited is every 1 in 2000 children are born intersexed? There are those who do not identify with the sex that they were born as. And on the gender front itself we have genderqueer, genderfluid, etc., etc.
Having a gender binary is harmful to the actual concept of gender, which is much freer and looser than society currently accepts.
I’m pan or omni or whatever because I fall in love with a person, not any particular gender or sex. And that’s fine. That’s how I identify. It’s as valid as any other identity. I’m not just another stereotype of a glorified “bisexual part girl”. I’m me. My sexuality is part of that, and I’m not changing it to make myself more socially acceptable.